Online dating first message
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She is the founder of Mile High Mating, a website dedicated to helping people go on more dates, have more sex, and find more love in the Mile High City and beyond.
”, “who do you think would win in a fight JBJ or Sambora? ” By stating and then asking, you’re showing her a bit about yourself (and how you two have something in common) and asking her a question, thus giving her an easy way to respond back to you (and taking all the pressure off). You don’t need to split atoms, but try not to split infinitives either. Assuming you’ve done steps 1-4 this should be a breeze.
The best possible scenario is if you can say something about it like “I’ve been rocking out to Bon Jovi since my dad gave me my first tape of them when I was 8 [true story btw]” and then ask a question like “what’s your fave song? Assuming you weren’t able to parlay whatever you mentioned about her profile into a question, now’s the time to ask her something. At least that way if she deems you cute it gives her something to respond back to with ease. Nothing makes you look stupider than simple spelling errors and not knowing the difference between your and you’re.
This establishes your interest and initiates conversation.
The format is simple: Here are a few examples: Though the message is short, it creates a commonality and allows for a dialogue to easily start.
There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.
It seems crazy, I know, but take the one or two minutes it takes to actually read the profile.
This will help spark an idea about where to take the message.
The key is really just to have something other than everybody else’s Hi, Hey, Hello without shooting too far and hitting her with Hot Tits or something equally stupid. Do not use compliments that are body related in any sense.
After all, you wouldn’t show up to a first date in your pajamas, so try not to look like you’re asleep in your first message. Using the example of Bon Jovi from earlier the title could be anything like “Bon Jovi” or “80s Rock” or “Similar Music Tastes” or even something unrelated to your message but from her profile.
Bonus: you’ll find out if you truly want to message this person or if they’re just drawing you in with their physical appearance.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating